If only we could collect and bottle the power of those rare moments of true bonding. An electric current runs through them, crackling with unfettered conversation, glowing with shared warmth. When we bond with someone else, we surrender our desire for power and our need to know the next chess move. The reason two people come together is rarely why they stay close, but it does offer an entry point. Unlikely allies are formed against common enemies. Bicoastal night owls reconnect online as an insomnia antidote. New residents in a foreign city travel together. In life, we often first connect with someone in response to something outside ourselves, but the relationship only grows as we let in more personal aspects of our lives. It’s thrilling to confess to something and This story is from Kinfolk Issue Seventeen Buy Now Related Stories Arts & Culture Issue 47 The Friendship Paradox On the probability of popularity. Arts & Culture Issue 43 Essay: Open Relationships What happens when private therapy becomes public entertainment? Arts & Culture Issue 42 Captcha This Prove you're not a robot. Arts & Culture Issue 42 The Language of Home How weird words forge new friendships. Arts & Culture Issue 34 How to Rekindle a Friendship On inching closer when you’ve grown apart. Arts & Culture Issue 27 Recently Deleted How technology is changing our memories of family.