For new parents, there’s no shortage of how-to manuals that tackle everything from sleep training to tantrums. But life hacks aside, how exactly does one take a tiny baby and turn them into an emotionally healthy adult? Your greatest chance for success, argues psychotherapist Philippa Perry, is to understand yourself first. In her bestselling guide to parenthood, The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (and Your Children Will Be Glad That You Did), Perry urges parents to understand their “parenting legacy”—that singular narrative of the childhood experiences that have shaped each one of us into the adult we are today. Perry believes that a thorough understanding of one’s own history equips parents to identify—and then This story is from Kinfolk Issue Thirty-Three Buy Now Related Stories Arts & Culture Issue 19 Going Incognito We all secretly wonder what mischief we’d make if invisible: When our identity is hidden, everything seems possible. Arts & Culture Issue 19 The Best Policy Sometimes we talk to each other without feeling heard. Honesty—a most intimate interaction—can be just as thrilling as its more devious inverse. Arts & Culture Issue 19 A Sense of Suspense With unhinged imaginations and mountains of cliff-hangers, the filmmakers behind the sci-fi podcast Limetown have all the makings of a scary story. Arts & Culture Issue 19 Like Clockwork In this new column about time, we learn how slipping off our watches makes us feel like deadline-damning renegades. Arts & Culture Music Issue 19 On a Grander Scale Malaysian singer-songwriter Yuna now may live on the opposite side of the globe, but she’s determined to evolve while staying true to her roots. Arts & Culture Issue 19 Neighborhood: Fire Stations The firefighting profession has evolved over time from Ancient Rome’s rudimentary bucket brigades to today’s sleek life-saving departments.