For new parents, there’s no shortage of how-to manuals that tackle everything from sleep training to tantrums. But life hacks aside, how exactly does one take a tiny baby and turn them into an emotionally healthy adult? Your greatest chance for success, argues psychotherapist Philippa Perry, is to understand yourself first. In her bestselling guide to parenthood, The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (and Your Children Will Be Glad That You Did), Perry urges parents to understand their “parenting legacy”—that singular narrative of the childhood experiences that have shaped each one of us into the adult we are today. Perry believes that a thorough understanding of one’s own history equips parents to identify—and then This story is from Kinfolk Issue Thirty-Three Buy Now Related Stories Arts & Culture Issue 33 At Work With: Liz Kleinrock Meet the elementary school teacher on a mission to improve diversity and anti-bias training. Arts & Culture Issue 33 Archive: Buckminster Fuller No work, no knowledge silos: When the future of education belonged to Buckminster Fuller. Arts & Culture Issue 33 Life Lessons: Nature Neda Semnani on education as a way past the impasse of climate dread. Arts & Culture Issue 33 Erica Chidi Cohen Laura Rysman meets the woman standing in front of a very different sort of classroom. Arts & Culture Issue 33 Cult Rooms: Black Mountain College Black Mountain College was an incubator for visionary designers, but the campus itself was a hodgepodge of styles—and a health and safety nightmare. Arts & Culture Issue 33 Spot the Difference Train your brain with these Spot the Difference and Odd One Out picture riddles.